Over the last few years, I have worked to make the mental switch to valuing experiences over things. But sometimes those experiences come in an unexpected form – time to myself. My favorite and most treasured experiences are with the people I love, but a little time to myself can go a long way to recharge or reinvigorate my mood and mental state.
My #1 favorite way to do that is by reading a good novel, propped up on my bed with a bunch of pillows. Preferably with dark chocolate and a glass of wine within arm’s reach. My second favorite recharge/pick me up is a solo trip for coffee and a croissant. In college I lived near one of the best coffee/croissant houses in town. They specialized in croissants that had melted cheese with ham or spinach on the inside. That coffee shop was my second home.
Back then I was trying to cram for quizzes and tests; now I have less cramming but more worries. Kids. Mortgage. Kids. Mortgage. Adulting can be rough. But when I can, I take a mental break and create some white space in my mind. I like to sip my coffee, pull apart my croissant and dream. I love dreaming about ideas for the future, for my family, for my blog. I think about a future of traveling. And what kind of future legacy I want to instill in my kids. How I want to impress upon them a sense of fun and adventure. How I want to teach them to treasure this precious, short life. How I want to teach them to love well and abundantly.
But I can’t do any of these things if I don’t carve out that solo time. I have to stop doing, so I can actually think. And be still. It’s so hard in this busy, busy world to do that. Honestly, I’m terrible at it. It feels like the last thing on the priority list, but it shouldn’t be.
We need downtime and white space to dream, to catapult us upward and onward, to grow.
top: c/o Only Child
jeans: vintage (similar)
boots: c/o Nisolo
necklace: Pursuits of Happiness
reusable coffee cup: Keepcup (I bought this for my husband for Christmas, but like it so much I had to steal it for these photos.)
location: Lovejoy Bakers
photography: Kiara Rose